Archives For Judging

On October 23, 2012

The Grace of Truth

The problem I have in confronting other people is that I want them to like me, I want to be known as a loving person more than I want to be a loving person. But the people who have blessed my life with their words the most, were people who cared enough to say hard things to me about life or ministry, because they cared more about me as a person than they did my immediate emotional state. And they weren’t doing that to be a jerk, they weren’t trying to hurt my feelings, they were trying to help me see myself better. They cared enough to tell me the truth about myself.

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On October 16, 2012

A Graceless World

Andy Stanley says that the greatest casualty in most of our churches is grace. It’s hard to extend grace to people who don’t seem to need it, and it’s really hard to admit you will need it when you don’t think you will receive it. I don’t believe that everyone is entitled to their own pet sin, or that we can’t say certain behaviors are wrong. But what I am saying is that we need to create communities, we need to create worlds, where no matter what, whoever you are, we accept you.

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On October 9, 2012

The Sin We Shouldn’t Judge

A lot of times we judge others out of a failure to understand and accept the Gospel in our own lives. We judge like God is the angry bear we are running away from, we don’t have to be faster than the bear, just faster than the next guy. A lot of times we judge as if God grades on the curve. As if God is running a beauty pageant.

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On September 23, 2012

A Generous Confrontation

I know that there are plenty of stories about Christians coming to other Christians with a spirit of condemnation and smug self-rigteousness. I’ve had it happen to me, and I bet you have too. But don’t use the abuse of something good to write off it’s use in healthy ways. And I think that’s why Jesus gives some of his most practical straight forward teaching on how to do this. He wants us to be generous with how we confront.

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On September 18, 2012

The Symphony of Grace

For anyone who is about to confront someone, I think it’s important to remember that in every single instance in the Gospels when Jesus is approached by a religious person and a sinner. The sinner connects to him and the religious person doesn’t. Because if you are confronting a brother or sister out of a sense of entitlement or pride, chances are you aren’t the right person to talk to them. Because there’s a chance you might not understand the Gospel.

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On September 11, 2012

Everyday Restoration Movements

One of the ways Paul talks about church discipline is to gently restore. I like that phrase. The word gently is actually a word for meekness, and this is the part I think we Christians miss the most. We approach these difficult conversations with ultimatums and power plays and, all too often, quite a bit of self-righteousness. But for Paul, the way we confront might actually be a sin.

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